January 12, 2018

Bereavement Conference 2018

Life is Changed, Not Ended

Saturday, March 10, 2018
9:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m.
St. Frances de Chantal Parish
1309 Wantagh Ave, Wantagh, New York 11793

Keynote Speaker

Bishop Andrzej Zglejszewski
Auxiliary Bishop, Diocese of Rockville Centre
Vicar for the Western Vicariate

Bishop Andrzej Zglejszewski was born and raised in Poland where he studied philosophy and theology before coming to the United States in 1987. He completed his studies for the priesthood at the Immaculate Conception Seminary in Huntington and was ordained by Bishop John R. McGann, for the Diocese of Rockville Centre in 1990.

Bishop Zglejszewski has served several parishes on Long Island. He was an Associate Pastor in the Parish of Saint Christopher, Baldwin (1990-1995), in Saint Thomas the Apostle, West Hempstead (1995-2003), and Saint Rose of Lima, Massapequa (2003-2007), before he was appointed Director of the Diocesan Office of Worship in 2007 and Co-Chancellor in 2013.

His graduate studies include theology at Fordham University in New York and sacramental theology at the Catholic University of America in Washington, DC. For several years he also was Adjunct Professor in the Seminary of the Immaculate Conception in Huntington, teaching in the Diaconate Formation Program.

Conference Schedule

9:15 a.m.
Morning Prayer

9:30 a.m. – 10:15 a.m.
Keynote

10:30 a.m. – 11:45 a.m.
Worshop I

12:00 p.m. – 1:00 p.m.
Lunch

1:15 p.m. – 2:30 p.m.
Workshop II

2:45 p.m.
Closing Prayer

Workshops

Please make two choices from those offered at Session I (10:30 a.m. to 11:45 a.m.)
and two choices from those offered at Session II (1:15 p.m. to 2:30 p.m.)

You will be placed in one of your choices for each session on a first-come-first-served basis.
Please see descriptions below and the chart on the following page as not all workshops are offered at both sessions.

Suggested audience abbreviations: P = Professionals, VF = Volunteer Facilitators, B = Bereaved

Session I

10:30 a.m. – 11:45 a.m.

1. What to do After Everyone Goes Home – Dealing with Sudden Loss

Margie S. Demshock, MS, LMHC Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Spiritual Director in private practice

Shock, numbness and denial are part of early grief. This workshop will explore how to cope in the aftermath of a sudden loss in days and weeks immediately following the wake, funeral, and burial. A packet of resources will be provided.

Suggested Audience: P, VF, B

 

2. “Lord, if You had been here…” Finding Faith in Times of Tragic Loss

Deacon James DiGiovanna, Committal coordinator at Holy Sepulchre Cemetery. Over the years there he has dealt with many tragic losses. The cemetery office has received comments from family members and funeral directors about the effectiveness of his service. He shares his experiences in hopes to help others who may be faced with similar circumstances.

Meeting with families, doing a committal service for tragic losses: children teenagers, accident victims, sudden death of spouse leaving the other spouse to raise young children, drug overdose, suicides. Suggestions will be given as to what to say to various survivors (spouse, children, family, and friends) that have proven to be effective for the speaker.

Suggested Audience: VF, B

 

3. Building A Bigger Boat: Coping Tool for the Grieving Heart

Marianne Esolen, RLCSW, Clinical social worker with 20+ years’ experience working with chronic illness, trauma, and grief. Training in CBT, DBT, Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy.

The experience of grief is complex, painful, isolating, and often overwhelming. This workshop explores the impact of loss on the body, mind, and spirit. We will focus on strategies for self-care, self-soothing, and stress management. Coping tools and activities will be shared to help participants navigate the stormy wakes of grief while taking gentle care themselves

Suggested Audience: B

 

4. Profiles in Courage: Establishing a New Sense of Identity after Grief and Loss

Christopher L. Hayes, Ph.D., Retired Professor of Gerontology Long Island University; Former Director of The Centre for Pre-Retirement and Aging – Catholic University of America.

Many times, bereavement groups focus on helping participants address pain and loss during the grieving process. Less is known on how participants move from hopelessness to perceiving life as a new beginning. This workshop will place a spotlight on the transformative process that group participants undergo and what we can learn about their courageous journey through bereavement. More importantly, this workshop will present a new paradigm on what constitutes growth and changes within the support group framework.

Suggested Audience: P, VF

 

5. The Wisdom in Telling Your Story

Jane Malone, PhD., LCSWR, This presenter was a Bereavement Coordinator with over 25 years’ experience working with end of life issues with adults and children. Currently has private practice specializing in grief, trauma and loss in Bayport, NY.

In the beginning of your grief – your story helps you to make sense of things. Over time and with reflection, your story changes and develops to include memories, strengths, love, along with wisdom that you have gained from your loss. Your story can be a powerful pathway to healing.

Suggested Audience: P, VF, B

 

6. Facilitate Groups / Giving Back

Kathryn Monaco Douglas, 12 years facilitating groups. Director of Bereavement at St. Matthews. 

Help to grow groups for different weeks of grief.

Suggested Audience: VF

 

7. Grief After A Substance Passing

Kerry O’Keefe Sr. / Christie O’Keefe, Facilitator for G.R.A.S.P. Malverne, NY (“Grief After a Substance Passing”).

Safe Non-judgmental forum for people grieving loss of a loved one to substance abuse/overdose. Discussion: stigma – struggles – strategies – support.

Suggested Audience: P, VF, B

 

8. When Your Loved One Dies Twice

Margaret Peterson, RN, MS in Mental Health Counseling. Nurse with background in oncology, critical care and home care. Specialized in bereavement and loss due to illness. Bereavement Support Group Facilitator for 30 years 23 years in a parish. Diocesan Facilitator, Grant Writer led caregiver support group for 15 years. Coordinator of Parish Remembers Program for 20 years.

The Goal of this workshop is to provide insight and understanding into the unique characteristics of grief that results from chronic illnesses such as Alzheimer’s and Cancer and provide effective coping skills.

Suggested Audience: P, VF

 

9. Love Without End, Amen. Journaling Our Grief

Suzanne Richards, MA Religious Studies, DRVC Certified Catechetical Leader; Pastoral Associate- Christ the King, Instructor – DRVC School of Missionary Disciples, Facilitator – retreats and workshops, Adjunct Instructor Malloy College; former Corporate Trainer.

An exploration of the various forms of journaling that may assist us in our grieving process.

Suggested Audience: VF, B

 

10. Empowering the Newly Bereaved

Luciano Sabatini, PhD in Counseling Psychology, 30 years experience in bereavement counseling, Bereavement Coordinator at St. Bernard’s parish in Levittown, Adjunct Professor at Hofstra University.

Presents a strategy for assisting the newly bereaved in gaining control over their grief and their lives.

Suggested Audience: P, VF, B

 

11. Learning to Live Fully After the Death of a Loved One

Kathleen Maurer Smith, Ph.D., Dean of Social Sciences, Associate Dean for Graduate Academic Affairs, Professor of Sociology at Molloy College, Teaches Sociology of Death and Dying.

When someone close to us dies, our grief centers on what we have lost. But later on in the grieving process, many people are able to focus on what they have gained. This workshop will present the idea of resilient grieving which involves finding strength and learning to embrace life after a loved one’s death. Suggestions for promoting “post-traumatic growth” will be provided.

Suggested Audience: P, VF, B

 

12. Finding God in Times of Grief

Father Anthony Stanganelli, Priest of the Diocese of Rockville Centre for 39 years, present pastor of Saint Bridgid’s Church in Westbury since 2013.

In the course of the loss of a loved ones, our image of God is challenged – where was He when I needed him? Why did He take my loved one? We can feel abandoned by God and confused by His silence. How does God invite us to have a relationship with Him and with the ones we love who are now with him?

Suggested Audience: B

 

13. Children and Grief: A Journey of Healing

Susan Thomas, LCW-R, ACSW, FT, Program Director for the Center for H.O.P.E. (Healing, Opportunity, Perseverance, Enlightenment) at The Steven and Alexandra Cohen Children’s Medical Center. She is also a fellow in Thanatology and Certified Trauma and Loss Specialist and has worked in the field of grief, loss and trauma for the past twenty-nine years. Ms. Thomas is the recipient of the 2010 Presidents Award for Patient Excellence for the entire Northwell Health System. Ms. Thomas coordinates all services provided by the Center for HOPE and is responsible for all the staff and volunteers who work at the Center. Ms. Thomas also has presented at many national conferences and seminars and maintains a private practice in New Hyde Park, NY.

This workshop will explore the unique ways in which children grieve, focusing on the task of grief, development factors, and strategies for coping. In addition, specific interventions to promote healing will be discussed.

Suggested Audience: P, VF, B

Session II

1:15 p.m. – 2:30 p.m.

14. Finding Forgiveness in the Face of Grief

Margie S. Demshock, MS, LMHC. Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Spiritual Directory in Private Practice.  

Many bereaved people find it hard to forgive themselves, the medical team, God, or the loved one who has died. This workshop will explore ways to work through your anger, guilt, and pain following the loss and to find your way towards forgiveness

Suggested Audience: B

 

15. Even Superheroes Need a Break!

Marianne Esolen, RLCSW, Clinical Social Worker with 20+ years’ experience working with chronic illness, trauma, and grief. Training in CBT, DBT, Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy.

Making time for self-care and awareness of one’s own needs is not a luxury, but rather an essential skill for professionals and facilitators who are supporting others dealing with grief. This workshop will focus on stress management, self-care, and strategies that help quiet the mind and body.

Suggested Audience: P, VF

 

16. Children’s Journey of Grief

Maribeth McKeever, LCSW-R, ACH PC-SN, a New York State Licensed Social Worker, Currently holds the position as director of Bereavement for Good Shepherd Hospice as well as coordinator of Gabriel’s Courage Perinatal Support Program.

This workshop is designed to provide practical information about age appropriate grief reactions, myths of child grief, grief within the context of the family as well as a variety of therapeutic activities.

Suggested Audience: P, VF, B

 

17. Will I Ever Breathe Again?

Kathryn Monaco Douglas, Catechist, Eucharistic Minister, Director of Bereavement and facilitating bereavement groups for 12 years. Helped with pre-cana for 5 years, Director of Bereavement .

To help those in grief learn that there are things we can do to help ourselves with loss.

Suggested Audience: P, VF, B

 

18. Grief After A Substance Passing

Kerry O’Keefe Sr. / Christie O’Keefe, Facilitator for G.R.A.S.P. Malverne, NY (“Grief After a Substance Passing”).

Safe Non-judgmental forum for people grieving loss of a loved one to substance abuse/overdose. Discussion: stigma – struggles – strategies – support.

Suggested Audience: P, VF, B

 

19. Love Without End, Amen. Journaling Our Grief

Suzanne Richards, MA Religious Studies, DRVC Certified Catechetical Leader; Pastoral Associate- Christ the King, Instructor – DRVC School of Missionary Disciples, Facilitator – retreats and workshops, Adjunct Instructor Malloy College; former Corporate Trainer.

An exploration of the various forms of journaling that may assist us in our grieving process.

Suggested Audience: VF, B

 

20. When Your Loved One Dies Twice

Margaret Peterson, RN, MS in Mental Health Counseling. Nurse with background in oncology, critical care and home care. Specialized in bereavement and loss due to illness. Bereavement Support Group Facilitator for 30 years 23 years in a parish. Diocesan Facilitator, Grant Writer led caregiver support group for 15 years. Coordinator of Parish Remembers Program for 20 years.

The Goal of this workshop is to provide insight and understanding into the unique characteristics of grief that results from chronic illnesses such as Alzheimer’s and Cancer and provide effective coping skills.

Suggested Audience: B

 

21. Suicide Prevention and Post-vention

Luciano Sabatini, PhD in counseling psychology, 30 years experience in bereavement counseling, Bereavement Coordinator at St. Bernard’s parish in Levittown, Adjunct Professor at Hofstra University.

Overview of most recent information on causes of suicide and how caregivers can help. Also, a discussion on resources to help those whose loved one dies by suicide including survivors of suicide loss support groups.

Suggested Audience: P, VF, B

 

22. Finding God in Times of Grief

Father Anthony Stanganelli, Priest of the Diocese of Rockville Centre for 39 years, present pastor of Saint Brigid’s Church in Westbury since 2013.

In the course of the loss of a loved ones, our image of God is challenged – where was He when I needed him? Why did He take my loved one? We can feel abandoned by God and confused by His silence. How does God invite us to have a relationship with Him and with the ones we love who are now with him?

Suggested Audience: B

 

23. When Hello Means Goodbye

Janet Stevens, RNC-OB, MSN, CNE, CNL, CPLC, CBC, C-EFM, CCRN, Perinatal Bereavement Coordinator CHSLI, Nurse/resident Educator GSHMC L&D, Professor at Suffolk County Community College.

EMILY’S gift (burial program for demises < 20 weeks.) Gabriel’s Courage: in-utero hospice/palliative care for imperiled newborn with life-limiting diagnosis.

Suggested Audience: P, VF

All faiths are welcome!

For more information call 516-678-5800 ext. 506

Sponsored by the Diocese of Rockville Centre Office of Faith Formation and Catholic Cemeteries